Self Introspection

Thick Is Real

acceptance is the beginning of emotional renewal.

A question was posed to me during the week and it's helped me build up today's piece.

I was asked 'why is self introspection important?'. On my piece "IT STARTS WITH YOU" I mentioned how everything starts with you. And in this case you can only begin to love yourself if self introspection is a regular exercise. It is important that we become aware of who we are and how our presence in someone else's life has an effect.

Self introspection is a daily exercise and it is important because life becomes simpler, you start to have inner stability, there's less self sabotage and you'll be more attractive in a relationship. These are a few pointers I found when I started researching on self introspection.

1.LIFE BECOMES SIMPLER. When you start loving yourself more, you won't drag yourself down because of small mistakes. You get to learn how other people's opinions don't determine who you are but what you think of yourself is what builds your character. 
2.YOU START HAVING INNER STABILITY. You start becoming less needy and opinions of others don't take your self esteem on a roller coaster. The more you start loving yourself, you stop wanting to get validation and attention from other people. 
3.THERE'S LESS SELF SABOTAGE. There's high likeness that you stop sabotaging yourself when you start self introspection on a regular basis and start building your self esteem. You realise that you are deserving of good things in life and you go after them with high motivation.

Self introspection is important because it helps build self esteem. Good Self esteem means self love and appreciation. Thick women, do a daily reflection on how you feel and what you love about yourself. And your beautiful self will manifest. 

#thickisbeautiful 

THICK Vs FAT

Thick is Real
Acceptance is the beginning of emotional renewal. 


The debate of whether ´thick´ is a better way of saying fat or ´thick´ and fat are two different things, is still a topic that has plus size models and basically everyone sharing their opinions on the topic. Some women consider the word ´thick´ as insulting and some think it´s a sexy way of complimenting a sized woman.

In a discussion I had with a few girls the topic THICK vs FAT came up. What stood out in the in discussion was how everyone spoke about fat and body shapes. One said ¨Being fat is having the fat in the wrong places(referring to back fat and belly fat). And thick is having the fat in the right places(thighs and buttocks). This interested me and led me to thinking why do we consider a big butt the right place to have fat and when the fat is on the belly it´s considered unhealthy and unattractive? Hip pop would describe thick as fat in the ¨right places¨ but would you see any hip pop artist with a real thick woman?, Curvy, voluptuous and a bit of belly rolls? Doubtful.

 I find the word ´fat´ derogatory because for a long time growing up the word was used to tease girls with big body sizes. Thick is a much more approved way of saying you have a big body frame and still sexy despite the body shape/type. When I hear the word ´thick´ I think of a strong and capable woman. A woman with all the back fat and belly rolls but still has confidence. While the society approves of slim girls and curvy woman with small waists, I still believe thick is real if the women have belly rolls or back fat and still manage to love themselves. That´s what we want. A society free of judgement according to body shape or body size.

IT STARTS WITH YOU

Thick is Real-

Acceptance is the beginning of emotional renewal

It starts with you. When looking in the mirror remember that is all starts in your mind. It's like what Rae Smith said "There's nothing wrong with your body but there's a lot wrong with the messages which try to convince you otherwise"

Here are other quotes to help you realise how beautiful thick women are. 

1. "Your body hears everything your mind says."~Naomi Judd
2."To love yourself as you are is a miracle, and to see yourself is to have found yourself, for now. And all we have and love who we are."~ Anne Lamott
3."Real beauty isn't about symmetry or weight: it's about looking life right in the face and seeing all it's magnificent reflected in your own"~ Valerie Monroe
4."When are awake in our  bodies and sense, the world comes alive. Wisdom, creativity and love discovered as we relax and awakened through our bodies."~ Tara Brash
5."How I feel about myself is more important than how I look. Feeling confident, being confident in your own skin-that is what really makes you beautiful"~ Bobbi Brown

6."Each individual woman's body demands to be accepted on it's own terms"~ Gloria Steinem
7."Everybody has a part of her body that she doesn't like, but I've stopped complaining about because I didn't to critique nature's handy work..my job is simply to allow the light to shine out of the masterpiece."~ Alfre Woodard
8."Take care of your body. It is the only place you have to live."~ Jim Rohn
9."Beauty once seemed to me to be an accident of nature...but now that I can see my life on my face, I realise we earn the way we end up looking. Time, it seems, gives us all a chance to really be beautiful."~ Ann Curry
10."When you are always trying to conform to the norm, you lose your uniqueness, which can be the foundation for your greatness."~ Dale Archer

Please comment with some of your favourite quotes from the list and share other quotes you would like me to add on the list.
#Thick Is Still Real

Clothing.

Thick Is Real
Acceptance is the beginning of emotional renewal.

Clothing. Lets talk about the ¨No you can´t wear that short with those stretch marks¨ or the ¨You have a lot of belly rolls, you can´t wear that tight dress.

Thick women have to think twice about what they are wearing. We often consider if someone else will be comfortable with me wearing a tight dress or a short. Embracing your body comes with being comfortable with what you are wearing. It is important to understand that wearing whatever you want does not mean going out of the house half naked screaming ¨I am comfortable with what I am wearing!!¨(well you will be half naked anyway). Clothes are important in boosting one´s confidence and that can only happen if you are comfortable in the clothes you are wearing. 

Clothes also define who you are and what you want to be seen as. In most cases I am afraid to wear tight clothing because I am afraid of how they will expose my body. This should not be the case. Wear what you want and walk down the street knowing that being thick does not mean you should not wear certain clothes, it´s about wearing those clothes with confidence.

#THICK IS STILL REAL!!!

Beauty 1.2

Thick Is Real.

Acceptance is the beginning of emotional renewal.

Beauty. I feel the need to speak about beauty again. In most cases I have this evil voice that screams ¨UGLY!!!¨ every time I look in the mirror. And it´s not something I think about, it comes from all the stereotypical views of what beauty is that keep reminding about how I am not a slim model form a magazine. It´s those small things that count and add up to make a person beautiful. Especially thick women. Beauty also speaks to identity. Who you are and what you believe in will show on the outside. That makes you beautiful. 

We speak about embracing and accepting our bodies but what specific things do I need to do in order to embrace my body? Breaking away from what society shaped my mind to believe about beauty takes courage and a great shift in one´s mindset. Here are some few tips from The Positivity Blog on how to build self esteem:

1.Take 2 minutes self appreciation. 
2.Write down 3 things in the evening that you can appreciate about yourself.
3.Be kinder to other people.
4.Spend more time with supportive people.

Overall beauty is not defined by one´s shape, size or body type but it is about what is on the inside. When social media fails to embrace the beauty of thick women, it is the duty of thick women to see the beauty in those belly rolls, cellulite and stretch marks.

There is so much beauty inside one´s heart. Recognize that and you will realize that there´s definitely beauty in wearing a size bigger than size 26.

What Is Beauty?

THICK IS REAL
Acceptance is the beginning of emotional renewal.


I remember when I was 12 years old. I loved reading magazines and seeing all the size 26 models, I used to think when I reach the age 16, I would be skinny and tall and people will stop calling me the ugly big girl. After 16 and I am the total opposite!! Now this changed my perception on what beauty is because I had to start embracing my body so I may be renewed emotionally from all the name calling I had to deal with growing up. Beauty is not defined by the size or shape of one's body. Initially it is hard to believe our mothers when they say "you are to beautiful the way you are" but it is actually true.


What is beauty? It's definitely not what the society tells us it is. It's not about being skinny or having a hour glass shaped body. One's attributes, achievements and personality says a lot. 

What is your take on thick women and what beauty is?
#ThickIsReal

Love Thy Hips

Thick is Real

Acceptance is the beginning of emotional renewal.

Thick is Real is a movement aimed at breaking stigmas around thick women, helping young girls embrace and accept their bodies. I am on a journey of self discovery and not allow the societal stereotypes narrow my opinion on what beauty is. On this journey of mine, I want to help other girls start this journey of acceptance.

Beauty is not defined by the size of one´s body and growing up being the big girl in school or in class comes with a lot of teasing and body shaming. All of these count down to the reasons why girls have low self-esteem.

JOIN IN THE MOVEMENT, LOVE THY HIPS #THICK IS DEFINITELY REAL!!